Move on

I think it’s great to plan, but sometimes things don’t go the way we plan so we have to improvise or “make the best” of the situation. Sayings like “if you have lemons, make lemonade” is a good example. I love to plan but many times things don’t work out the way I had hoped. I have to remind myself that I did my best and sometimes things are out of my control.

For some reason I think about 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, “Love is patient and kind… It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable… Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”

We should have patience whenever our plans fail, we need to react in love instead of being upset, and we need to look beyond the current circumstance. There are greater things to think about, so when we feel disappointed then we need to give it to God and move on.

Copyright © 2014 Dr. M. Teresa Trascritti

Do you love your neighbor?

Marriage is a funny thing. Out of all the relationships we have on earth, the marital relationship is the one that tests our patience and the extent of our love (the next most difficult relationship is the one we have with our children).

In Matthew 22:37-39, Jesus tells us the two most important commandments– (1) “love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind” (“This is the first and greatest commandment”), and (2) “Love your neighbor as yourself” (this is “equally important”).

I think it’s easy to love our neighbor– the people next door we hardly ever see or the one who bags our grocery, but it can be hard to love the neighbor we live with– someone we see all the time. There is more opportunity to have disagreements with the person we see 24/7– this is the true test of love.

In 1 John 4:7-8 it says that “love comes from God” and that “God is love.” So we can’t truly love someone unless we have placed our trust in God– “Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God” (1 Jn 4:7, NLT). So in order for us to “love our neighbor”– our spouse, our children, our family members, etc., we must love God. If we are having a hard time loving our spouse or our children, then we must see if we truly love God.

There was a time when I could go from loving my husband to hating my husband on a daily basis. When all was well, I loved him, but when we had a bad disagreement then I hated him. We used to have terrible arguments during the first ten or 15 years of our marriage– my husband would punch walls and I would throw dishes– both of us screaming at each other.

I can look back and see that I did not love God as much as I love Him now, and that lack of love for God was reflected in the lack of love I had for my husband. As I started to grow in my relationship with God, my love for Him grew and my love for my husband grew as well.

We still have disagreements and even arguments sometimes, but they are not as volatile as they once were. We still maintain that love for one another even though we are upset. The patience and love I have for my husband is only made possible because of God.

How about you– do you love your neighbor?

Copyright © 2013 Dr. M. Teresa Trascritti

The Lord be praised!

I was going to write a long update on my progress, but nothing has really changed (this is “Day 4”). I still have pain, but I don’t want to take pain medication or Tylenol. I am forcing myself to eat.

I am frustrated with my slow progress but I am trying to be loving, joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and have self-control (Gal 5:22-23) even though I feel like an injured animal.

I feel like I am missing so many things—I missed church this past Sunday, I am missing VBS, etc. My concern is that I can feel more “normal” so I can enjoy my youngest son’s birthday this Saturday, my granddaughter’s birthday on the 21st, and my husband’s birthday on the 25th.  I guess I just have to be patient. No matter what, “… may the name of the Lord be praised” (Job 1:21).

Copyright © 2013 Dr. M. Teresa Trascritti

It’s only been a day and a half

It’s only been a day and a half since I had my tonsils removed (it feels a lot longer than that though). The hardest part about going into this was not knowing how much pain I would actually feel after the operation. Both the ENT doc and the anesthesiologist said that I would be in a lot of pain, but what does that really mean? Is what I imagined to be “a lot of pain” the same as what they meant?

I am in pain—it’s not excruciating, but it’s to the point that I just want my life to go back to “normal.” I want to talk again, I want to swallow again, I want to run and jump again… but, I can’t even blow my nose or eat “real” food. I ate my second bowl of liquified black bean soup this evening and halfway through it, I felt like gagging— it was the consistency.

I know that I will be better in a couple of weeks, but it’s only been about two days and it feels like an eternity already. I know I need to be patient, but it seems so hard. I can’t imagine what it must be for someone who is in constant pain. My pain should be better in about ten days, so I need to be silent and thank God that all I had was a tonsillectomy.

Romans 12:9-12 says, “…cling to what is good… Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor… Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer” (NIV).

It’s so easy to start wallowing in self-pity, but that’s not how God wants me to react. My situation is only temporary. I need to find the joy even in my momentary pain, and I can’t let my current circumstances distract me from praising God—I must continue to cling to Him. I must continue to pray, not for myself, but for others. I need to stay focused—“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God” (1 Cor 10:31).

Copyright © 2013 Dr. M. Teresa Trascritti